Summer’s approaching and it will be here before we know it! Usually the weather starts getting warmer, children are let out of school, pools and beaches start getting crowded with people, and people start breaking up with their partners! Yes, I said it! Now this is more for the men and I do not care that there are some females who do this because I don’t know any! I know some who have a starting five but I don’t know any who deliberately break up with their partners to have a starting five!
For those of you who do not know what a starting five is, we will break it down in basketball terms. Usually, the star player plays in the starting five along with four other players on the team. Just like the basketball team’s starting five, a man has one too. I will break down each role and I will give each girl a name and this will be a fun blog, right guys???
The star player a.k.a. the lead girl that they like the most, earns the most chill time, can stay over, may get an occasional outing, will get handouts ($$$), who is on her grind and is not looking for a relationship, just a good chill partner. You can consider this girl to be the best of the best because that she is. She does everything right. Cooks, cleans, has a career, she is the perfect package. You almost want this girl to be your girl but you know you have four other chicks to deal with. However, you will drop everything at the drop of a dime if she calls. You have an agreement, you know she may have someone else but if you need her and she needs you, you will be there for each other no matter what time of day, she will be right there, as will you.
Now I know this may seem a bit crazy, to have a wifey listed on the team in your top three but you have a strong connection with this girl. When THE BOSS is too busy he will then call one of the subs a.k.a. one of the other players on the team to come over. This one is just as bad as the first girl, her smile, her body, her personality, even when she’s mad she’s sexy! But, she is clingy and she doesn’t deserve the top spot. She understands her place, she knows that there could possibly be someone else but she doesn’t care about that because you make her feel special. She is committed to you! She’s kind, sweet, and will occasionally gain your attention enough to even argue with you on a weekly basis. You will make love to this girl and you know she deserves someone better than you. You know you like her but you also know that THE BOSS is that girl. You are definitely feeling this girl and some day this could be your girl but she can’t get that side of you just yet…the summer just started.
POP, LOCK, AND DROP IT
This girl obviously can drop it like it’s hot! She is your club girl, your party chick, you two can go to a bar, get twisted and then go home and get it in. That is all she is good for, a good time. Sometimes you just need to unwind and just chill. This girl appreciates the attention and she knows you will give her a call at least once a week but that’s it. Nothing more. Nothing less. She knows her place most days, which is a jump off, but she constantly nags you for more. This annoys you but this girl was too easy, you met her at a club, and you had a mutual understanding…what more could you want? Stay in your place let’s not get out of control here.
STAGE FIVE CLINGER
Yes I said it! Stage five clinger! Who wants that? This is a girl who you knew you were sexually attracted to, you knew she was going to be on the team, you knew you weren’t really feeling her like that, but you took a hit for the team and decided to give her a chance. Little did you know she was crazy as hell! As soon as the deed gets done she is calling all the time, texting you up a storm, begging to see you. Wants to do drive bys, come see you at work, and tells the parentals about you. When you’re out with your boys she wants to meet them, OKAY this is enough!! Now you’re pissed because you gave her a get out of jail free card and she is the most annoying ever. Why? Why? Why? She gets a call like once maybe twice every two weeks just so you can shut her up! The calls and the texts must stop A.S.A.P. besides it’s really not that serious anyways. Time for a sub!
I.C.E. (IN CASE OF EMERGENCY)
There really isn’t much to say about this chick except she is what she sounds like, in case of emergency. You hit her up when it’s like 2am, only one of your boys really knows about her. She is one of those girls that you really don’t need to be seen with but she has hidden talents. Clearly she earns a spot because she deserves one. She has potential but you rather keep her where she is…on ICE.
So now what?
What happens when this routine gets old? When will you decide that you are ready to mature, be faithful, settle down, and get serious? There is nothing wrong with having a starting five or a top three. Some people feel their age says it all. If they aren’t thirty plus they feel that they don’t need to settle down. They have plenty of time to get married and start a family. Granted. We do not know what will happen day to day but maybe, just maybe, one of those females that you have on your list, could seriously be the girl who you are supposed to be with. So examine your teams and if you are catching feelings for one of those girls then you need to stop with the bs and take it to the next step.
Something deep down inside of you tells you that you need to settle down with this girl. When you realize that you stopped picking up the phone calls, answering those text messages, or random emails and bbm’s, then it’s time to settle down. Don’t let your gut stray you away from a little happiness. There is nothing like being in love.
I know we went from talking about a starting five/top three to listening to your feelings and going with your gut. But seriously if this routine is getting old, you have to take a chance on love. You never know what will happen. I do not know what will happen. But, I can tell you this, a friend of mine once said, “If you’re scared to get hurt you better believe the other person is scared too. If you get hurt who cares at least you can say you gave it your all while it lasted.”
So good luck with your starting five or your top three for 2010 its right around the corner…hope you started recruiting! Lol.
P.S. This is in no way showing disrespect to my ladies out there reading this. I’m just saying if you feel you are one of these females on the checklist then you may want to reevaluate, if you’re not looking for a beau then you may need to flip the script and start your own team and make sure you add him to it!
Nadie La La