Break Up With One… To Get Five!

26 Apr

Summer’s approaching and it will be here before we know it! Usually the weather starts getting warmer, children are let out of school, pools and beaches start getting crowded with people, and people start breaking up with their partners! Yes, I said it! Now this is more for the men and I do not care that there are some females who do this because I don’t know any! I know some who have a starting five but I don’t know any who deliberately break up with their partners to have a starting five!

For those of you who do not know what a starting five is, we will break it down in basketball terms. Usually, the star player plays in the starting five along with four other players on the team. Just like the basketball team’s starting five, a man has one too. I will break down each role and I will give each girl a name and this will be a fun blog, right guys???


The star player a.k.a. the lead girl that they like the most, earns the most chill time, can stay over, may get an occasional outing, will get handouts ($$$), who is on her grind and is not looking for a relationship, just a good chill partner. You can consider this girl to be the best of the best because that she is. She does everything right. Cooks, cleans, has a career, she is the perfect package. You almost want this girl to be your girl but you know you have four other chicks to deal with. However, you will drop everything at the drop of a dime if she calls. You have an agreement, you know she may have someone else but if you need her and she needs you, you will be there for each other no matter what time of day, she will be right there, as will you.


Now I know this may seem a bit crazy, to have a wifey listed on the team in your top three but you have a strong connection with this girl. When THE BOSS is too busy he will then call one of the subs a.k.a. one of the other players on the team to come over. This one is just as bad as the first girl, her smile, her body, her personality, even when she’s mad she’s sexy! But, she is clingy and she doesn’t deserve the top spot. She understands her place, she knows that there could possibly be someone else but she doesn’t care about that because you make her feel special. She is committed to you! She’s kind, sweet, and will occasionally gain your attention enough to even argue with you on a weekly basis. You will make love to this girl and you know she deserves someone better than you. You know you like her but you also know that THE BOSS is that girl. You are definitely feeling this girl and some day this could be your girl but she can’t get that side of you just yet…the summer just started.


This girl obviously can drop it like it’s hot! She is your club girl, your party chick, you two can go to a bar, get twisted and then go home and get it in. That is all she is good for, a good time. Sometimes you just need to unwind and just chill. This girl appreciates the attention and she knows you will give her a call at least once a week but that’s it. Nothing more. Nothing less. She knows her place most days, which is a jump off, but she constantly nags you for more. This annoys you but this girl was too easy, you met her at a club, and you had a mutual understanding…what more could you want? Stay in your place let’s not get out of control here.


Yes I said it! Stage five clinger! Who wants that? This is a girl who you knew you were sexually attracted to, you knew she was going to be on the team, you knew you weren’t really feeling her like that, but you took a hit for the team and decided to give her a chance. Little did you know she was crazy as hell! As soon as the deed gets done she is calling all the time, texting you up a storm, begging to see you. Wants to do drive bys, come see you at work, and tells the parentals about you. When you’re out with your boys she wants to meet them, OKAY this is enough!! Now you’re pissed because you gave her a get out of jail free card and she is the most annoying ever. Why? Why? Why? She gets a call like once maybe twice every two weeks just so you can shut her up! The calls and the texts must stop A.S.A.P. besides it’s really not that serious anyways. Time for a sub!


There really isn’t much to say about this chick except she is what she sounds like, in case of emergency. You hit her up when it’s like 2am, only one of your boys really knows about her. She is one of those girls that you really don’t need to be seen with but she has hidden talents. Clearly she earns a spot because she deserves one. She has potential but you rather keep her where she is…on ICE.

So now what?

What happens when this routine gets old? When will you decide that you are ready to mature, be faithful, settle down, and get serious? There is nothing wrong with having a starting five or a top three. Some people feel their age says it all. If they aren’t thirty plus they feel that they don’t need to settle down. They have plenty of time to get married and start a family. Granted. We do not know what will happen day to day but maybe, just maybe, one of those females that you have on your list, could seriously be the girl who you are supposed to be with. So examine your teams and if you are catching feelings for one of those girls then you need to stop with the bs and take it to the next step.

Something deep down inside of you tells you that you need to settle down with this girl. When you realize that you stopped picking up the phone calls, answering those text messages, or random emails and bbm’s, then it’s time to settle down. Don’t let your gut stray you away from a little happiness. There is nothing like being in love.

I know we went from talking about a starting five/top three to listening to your feelings and going with your gut. But seriously if this routine is getting old, you have to take a chance on love. You never know what will happen. I do not know what will happen. But, I can tell you this, a friend of mine once said, “If you’re scared to get hurt you better believe the other person is scared too. If you get hurt who cares at least you can say you gave it your all while it lasted.”

So good luck with your starting five or your top three for 2010 its right around the corner…hope you started recruiting! Lol.

P.S. This is in no way showing disrespect to my ladies out there reading this. I’m just saying if you feel you are one of these females on the checklist then you may want to reevaluate, if you’re not looking for a beau then you may need to flip the script and start your own team and make sure you add him to it!

Nadie La La

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13 Responses to “Break Up With One… To Get Five!”

  1. Daniela April 26, 2010 at 8:56 pm #

    You got me thinking if I’m on a starting five or a top 3! I like the idea of recruiting my own starting five and see how that goes sounds like I can have it all, if every guy can why can’t I? maybe I’ll mix and match!!!

    • princessnadielala May 1, 2010 at 3:07 pm #


      How do I ever so love you! LOL, girl go get one…I mean five! If men can do it why couldn’t women? It has to be a science because it takes a man who is not supposed to be able to multi-task to have five women maybe more. So do you miss!

      Nadie La La

  2. random dude :-) April 26, 2010 at 8:57 pm #

    Wtf see I knew this was gonna happen.This is exactly why at the pimp summit last year I specifically said no booklets, because I knew somebody was gonna lose theirs, but nooooo Don magic Juan insisted on putting everything down on paper for the “simple n*ggas”. She’s on to us fellas just pray she didn’t get to the chapter about delaying marriage until the kids are in college. Nah in all seriousness. Guys are very visual by nature. So naturally when the summer comes along and every woman is wearing less our eyes tend to stray. Doesn’t really matter who your with its hard wired into us. For god sakes Halle Berry got cheated on. My solution to this evolutionary problem is to while I’m in a relationship not put myself in a situation that would get me into “trouble” so to speak. So clubbing every week nope, strip club cut cold turkey, pretty much any place that is considered a singles hangout is cut out. You won’t get tempted if there is no temptation. Now on to the issue of “rosters”. Yea every dude has one. The burning question is do you keep your roster once you get a woman? Me personally I don’t all players are notified that the team is no more and to look for work else where. Some dudes however try to keep the team which just lets you know that the woman that you are with is not the right one for you or your not ready for something serious because you should not need a different woman for each situation that one woman should fulfill all your needs. I have a superwoman now and trust me this dog won’t be straying.

  3. @TGIFhaas April 27, 2010 at 8:34 am #

    wow your dope!!! imma man so i wont really comment…almost pleading the fifth..but well explained!!!! imma fan

    • princessnadielala May 1, 2010 at 3:08 pm #

      Thank you @TGIFhaas I appreciate the love and welcome to the blogging world!!

      Nadie La La

  4. Missy pooh April 28, 2010 at 8:48 pm #

    I swear it keeps getting better and better every time. Your right there is nothing wrong with a starting 5 just as long as its understood from jump. See with the starting five u have to be careful cause then u get a bad egg like a 5 stage clinger and maybe worse like that lady from that movie with martin in it. And then what lol.When this person gets ready to set up their dream squad the pimp game better be a tight as a lid on a pickle jar.. Lol. This is y I call your website the eye opener!!! Cause it Def causes people to wake up and smell that drink from star bucks lmaooooo…love ya girl keep this up.. Skies the limits.

    • princessnadielala May 1, 2010 at 3:16 pm #

      Missy pooh,

      Wow you brought it back to Martin, that movie is definitely a problem! All the stage five clingers are not going to be happy that you made them feel like a psycho! Well it is what it is right? Pimp game has to be tight especially if you’re considering a starting five. I feel that if you’re going to even think about upgrading to an entire starting line up, please, please, please make sure you can even deal with one!

      Nadie La La

  5. supawumyn April 29, 2010 at 3:09 pm #

    Well………….. I’m speechless! That was some kinda deep there! The evaluation of the man’s mind is off the chain. I have to give you a standing ovation!

    I’m so glad that I have not fit into any of the catagories. I’m sure many women who would read this will have to re-think their role in the relationship they have with a man. What’s really interesting is the way you put it down you would have to wonder what position you hold as the woman. I guess calculation is the key factor. But why calculate? Why wonder? Who is it that you are loving? Does he love you? Not just saying it but showing it. Does he make you feel insecure? Well that’s something you would have to ask yourself.

    Why is it that men can handle the juggling of women? Why is it that some women are willing to be juggled? There is not that much a man can give that would make me want to be 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th or 5th. I want to be the ONLY!!! That’s what we deserve. We deserve to be loved, hugged, wine and dined. We also need to accept it and not be suspicious of it when we are the ONLY!!

    • princessnadielala May 1, 2010 at 3:23 pm #


      Thanks again for returning back this week to comment on the infamous starting five! I laughed to myself…well I meant out loud, lol, when I read, “The evaluation of the man’s mind is off the chain” I am sure this is not even extremely accurate but from what I am told I come a little close.

      Sadly, a lot of women I am sure had to rethink about if they fell into any of these categories and sadly they do. I can’t necessarily say sadly because most of them know what they are getting into when they do it! A lot of them do, well maybe all of them. I do not know how and why they can handle the juggling of women and I just mentioned that in a previous post its unreal because they supposedly cannot multitask. I also want to the the one and ONLY, but if there has been a case where I have not been…he sure did a hell of a job making it seem like I was and to me that’s all that matters…aka I’m the Boss lol! Yes your last line=priceless!!

      Nadie La La

  6. moomoo April 30, 2010 at 2:41 pm #

    Lmao i was reading this and tryin to apply this to my team:) haha

  7. nygirl0828 May 2, 2010 at 6:23 pm #

    Nadie as usual an eye opener. Whether women are going to admit it or not. Men reallly do have categories that they put women in. Jump off, Main Lady, Cut buddy…some kinda of category. Really Really Good Nadia!

  8. nygirl0828 May 2, 2010 at 6:26 pm #

    Random Dude I respect you! Men in relationships should follow your steps. Respect due!


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