On two different occasions today, I had a conversation with some friends about what is going on all around us. So many of our peers are settling down, are engaged, soon they will be married, starting families, or just not hanging out with their same circle of friends. I feel like it is an epidemic but it is just this thing called life. At some point everyone wants to share their life with someone. Some start early others start later on in life. I keep hearing people say when it is my time it will happen. How about you start using conviction words? If you want it to happen, speak it into being. MAKE IT HAPPEN. Start hanging with the folks who are looking for the same things you are looking for. You can’t possibly be looking for a partner by hanging around someone who already has a partner. I know I am not interested in looking for a partner for my single friends; needless to say my partner isn’t having that. You’re an adult, if you want a special someone in your life, go out and get one.
However, there comes a time when you do start drifting away from you circle of friends. When I say drifting I mean your priorities change. There was a time when I would do anything for my friends. If they wanted to hang out I was there no matter what time it was. I wanted to be a great friend but I also wanted to be in a relationship more. I knew I was going to be married at 22 and a stay at home mom. So I did whatever I could to find that guy who was looking for the same things as I was. Then I turned 22, I was partying like a psycho and throwing back shots faster than anyone. Now I am 25 and my future couldn’t be brighter. I am looking forward to the things I mentioned earlier but I do know that some of my friends who are married, who have children, or expecting children have changed their priorities too. I can’t be mad at them for taking care of their priorities first. We no longer have all the same things in common, so they begin to seek those who do. It’s just natural to gravitate toward things of interest. My single friends won’t always understand when I cancel on them at the last minute because my partner wants to do something yet, my coupled friends would. If a mother or father has to take their child/children to the doctor due to something unexpected his or her friends will expect and understand that their priorities are their children and won’t ever get upset for taking care of what matters.
I know as young adults we are trying to soak our feet into this American soil and finish school, start a career, and live life to the fullest. As I mentioned before, some start early and others are still grinding making footprints so they can be established before they even think about settling down and starting a family. Everyone is different and there is no set plan that you and I know about. We can only leave that up to one… our Creator. In The Bible, it says that God knew you before our parents even thought of having us. (Jeremiah 1:5) Just know that you have a life of prosperity and happiness ahead of you if you just trust in our Father in Heaven.
So tell me what do you think? Do you think your priorities change based upon different events in your life? Do you believe that you drift away from your friends without even realizing it based upon these priority changes?