The Unforgiving Minute

19 Oct

The Unforgiving Minute

Inspired by Rudyard Kipling’s “If”

Ever get into an argument and you expressed yourself through some evil words that sting? I’m definitely guilty of that and I have definitely been a victim of it. Have you offended someone and you knew that you offended them yet you wished you could take it back? Have you ever hurt someone’s feelings and had no idea that you hurt them? I know I said the same thing in three different ways yet it all comes down to the title of this blog, The Unforgiving Minute! Have you made a career decision that you regret and many years later you wished you went down the yellow brick road instead of the gold and shiny one? Have you cursed someone out because they cut you off on the highway while you were sipping on your coffee during the morning rush hour, later on you cross paths with this same person? Awkward! The point is there are many scenarios that can relate down to the unforgiving minute. You cannot take back many of these events so you spend more than one minute, sixty seconds, on rebuilding what you broke down, rebuilding trust, rebuilding your wealth, rebuilding your life, rebuilding, rebuilding, rebuilding. Everyone doesn’t have that one person to warn us of many unforgiving events that will occur yet many of them come out of defense, either way more thought should be put into your actions. I personally have a hard time doing this, how can I think of fifteen different thoughts and decisions in less than a minute before I react? Hard isn’t it? Fact is everyone is different and some want a reaction now and some don’t want one at all. What can you do?

When you look back and think of all the unforgiving moments it is hard to understand why you did what you did. Don’t dwell on the past too long…it is there for a reason, all you can do is forgive and forget…time to move on. Focus on changing the future and making the best out of every situation.

Again, this blog was inspired by Rudyard Kipling’s “If” which is enclosed. Thanks for reading! Subscribe and check out my new blog for the ladies!


If by Rudyard Kipling

  If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!


3 Responses to “The Unforgiving Minute”

  1. Christylove October 20, 2011 at 1:12 pm #

    First off I love the poem by Kipling. I had the problem of just spewing foolishness out and wishing I can take it back. I have learned to not speak so suddenly anymore. Once words are spoken especially if they are hurtful no matter how sorry you are they can not be unspoken. So be careful what you say. Now road rage, that’s a whole other topic. LOL

    • princessnadielala October 20, 2011 at 1:24 pm #

      Wasn’t it the best! I loved it. So much to disect but once it is done you begin to realize how true it is.

  2. Trevor January 6, 2012 at 4:02 pm #

    Nadie and Christy, I am so pleased to find fans of this poem. Thank you for posting this Nadie. I am involved with a group of “If” enthusiasts in creating a website that is devoted to this poem, and it will include other similar poems, articles and music, all inspired by “If.” I thought that you may be interested in this. I know it is a cheek to ask, but if you like the website, it would be wonderful if you could consider including a link on your blog next to the poem. Please take a look:

    Wishing you a happy new year and a great 2012!



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