What is it to be insecure? According to Dictionary.com it means lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt. I can say for sure that when I think about insecurities I think of women automatically. We are always insecure about something. Maybe it has something to do with the way we see other women today. Celebrities always seem to be “perfect” but then you will always see them on a tabloid magazine cover bare and exposed. I do not know one person who is not insecure about something. There are so many things to be insecure about. Both men and women share the same insecurities and sometimes a woman cannot understand what it is like to be insecure from a man’s perspective.
As a fan of many author’s, Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment, probably made it easier for me as a woman to understand what it is a man could be insecure about. In a nutshell he basically said a man could not provide for his family or wife if he was not satisfied with where he was in life. This man could be insecure about money, education, religion, and even love. If he is not bringing in a steady income due to a lack of education and he isn’t right with God then how else would he be able to provide for anyone else if he doesn’t think he can provide for himself? Never once would I have ever expected a man’s actions could be a result of this. Granted most men are never are vocal about their own issues. They have this gift that allows them to keep their thoughts, plans, goals, to themselves and this allows them to put their thoughts, plans, and goals in action. I say gift because women are more vocal. We aren’t afraid to voice our opinions, thoughts, plans, and goals. I added opinions because whether you want it or not, we will give it. I laugh as I write this because it is so true. There are plenty of times I wish I were able to be quiet and keep my mouth shut in certain situations because at the end of the day the thought, plan, or goal was going to help both of us. Instead, I created an argument that was unnecessary. Goes back to the saying know your role. I guess.
As far as the female is concerned, I believe the number one concern is image and weight. This can fall under two different topics but they fall under the same category. I have never really been obsessed with my image or weight. I don’t like attention drawn to myself but I guess dressing nice means that I do like attention. I disagree with this. I wear what I want to wear because I think it looks good. I step out of the house presentable and I think everyone should. There are some days I will step out of the house in sweats and I will get approached the most on this day. To me it doesn’t matter. My weight, another thing I have never been obsessed with. If I am 110 pounds or if I am 175 pounds, if I feel good within then I do not care how much I weigh. I think the scale is the devil. There’s a saying for dating, age ain’t nothing but a number, why couldn’t this be so for weight. I do not like scales. My homes have never had scales in them. You can be a healthy 175 as a woman. You can be a healthy 220 too. As long as you are active and eat healthy who cares about what the scale says. Now, I do eat whatever I want but I also eat about five times a day. This is how I stay the same size, weight, and shape whatever you want to call it. I do exercise a few times a week. I really enjoy yoga and Pilates the most.
However, if a woman isn’t happy with her weight and her partner is then why are we complaining! I will never understand the science behind this but a man will always love a women’s body. You can gain 30 pounds and he won’t even notice. You will kill yourself because of this and he will still love every curve. AMAZING! I won’t even write anything else about that topic I may convince them not to. LOL.
There are so many things that people are insecure about. At the end of the day I believe we should be thankful for what we have because not everyone is blessed to have these qualities that some of us complain about. Everyone can do something to prevent this one thing from being insecurity. Love thy self.
I’d like to know how you feel about insecurities not necessarily what you are insecure about but just what you think about the topic. If you are comfortable enough to talk about them then feel free to do so. Always feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Also, follow me on Twitter: NadieLaLa.
Thanks for the love and support,
Nadie La La