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Others vs. Me

29 Jul

“People are our sunshine, our soil, our rain. When are we going to stop surviving off of people and start living for ourselves?”

– Nadia A

I wrote this quote in the middle of my notes during my Psych class this evening. We were learning about personality and I wondered when will I ever start living for myself? As long as I can remember I’ve always put someone else before me. I can’t say that is necessarily a negative trait but I don’t see much positive in it either. I allow others to “change” me for the time being. I am so wrapped up in being who they want me to be that I forget to be me. Whoever that person may be is an amazing person… before the change. That is who I need to become all the time. I do not want to be that wife and mother (one day) who starts living her life once her kids are ready for college. I am sure I wrote this in a blog post before but for some reason it sticks this time. I am a habitual thinker who is extremely observant and a genius in my own right. Who isn’t? I won’t say that my mind and the way it works is a negative trait because it is something God gave me yet how I use it… well that’s another story. I am learning and unlearning at the same time. Change can only happen if I want it to. One cannot allow another to change them if they are not ready to be changed. I want to change me and someone else may not agree with that change but the people who are supposed to be in my life will embrace the change and accept me for who I am.

This is a new season! I have a new outlook on life and what it means to truly be me and I am looking forward to tomorrow… you should too.


9 Apr

Okay…so I fell off the blog sphere for three short days….ahem I mean weeks and now I am back…for today. LOL. I have been keeping up with everyone’s blogs and I pray that everyone enjoyed their holiday weekend, if you’re one to celebrate!

I finally decided to take out chicken from my diet. I am not sure when this will happen or if I will just switch to organic chicken but I am pretty sure it’ll happen over the Summer months. I visited Trader Joe’s and Whole Foods for the first time over the last two weeks and I really enjoyed being there. However, I will never ever go there ever again during lunch time. It was a pure circus in Trader Joe’s and I was completely overwhelmed because everyone was in a major rush to find all of the fun salads, fruits, and veggies that made their tummies happy! I was able to find Pellegrino for a great price so I finally know where to buy it! So eating healthier is definitely on my top list of things to do every day!

The other day however I decided to try a Netflix trial and I began to watch “Food Inc.” This movie is relatively old but this was the first time I actually watched it. I’ve heard about it for many years now and never watched it but I am glad I did and I encourage everyone to watch this movie. It sickens me to know what goes on with all the meat that people eat. For almost a year now I have not eaten pork, lamb, or beef. I miss it but when I want those things I actually buy vegan. It is definitely not the same but it isn’t bad either. The way these farmers are told to process the food is horrible and it makes you think twice and then three times about what you are consuming. That’s what encouraged me to step into Whole Foods and Trader Joe’s. Although it is a bit more expensive to eat healthier I feel it is worth it.

There was a case where there was a young family who had one parent on diabetes medication that cost around $400 dollars per month and they were barely getting by. This family had to decide if the produce that was at the supermarket was “on sale” in order to even purchase it. Broccoli was so expensive to this family, $1.29 per pound back in 2006, imagine how this family is coping today. The parents decided that it was too expensive to purchase one pound of broccoli because that would only feed two of the four members and decided to go to the dollar menu instead. I was so saddened by this situation and disgusted with the way things are with this world today because everything is about money and no one cares about people any more. I know everyone is responsible for their own finances but when the cost of living in constantly increasing and wages aren’t people start to struggle.

School!!!!!!!!!!!!! Where does one begin? It is almost over! Three weeks left! I can’t wait! Notice all the exclamation marks? That displays my excitement!!! Although school is almost over I have to say I will actually miss learning about the women in history. This week we are learning about the women of the Great Depression which fueled my anger once again because I just watched “Food Inc” and gas rose like ten cents over night the other day. Then, I read an article stating another depression is less than 20 years away. That isn’t very encouraging at all. Millions of people lost their homes to foreclosure, savings accounts vanished over night, and various states closed banks, period. Without a place to live, without money to buy food and to think that there was absolutely no banking system in some states is a little crazy. My generation and the ones under me have to get to work like yesterday! We have to build up a greater nation. There is no way that this country has 300+ years under its belt and is about to repeat a depression cycle. That is sick! It is way too soon for America to repeat it’s most devastating financial crisis again. I know what some of my followers are thinking, especially the ones who do not live in the U.S.! You guys always remind me of how awesome my country really is! :0) But, seriously something has got to give and I mean soon!

Well that is all from me today folks! I have some homework to tend to and thanks for always being supportive!

Nadie La

The Versatile Blogger Award

22 Dec

AHHHHHHHHHHHAHHHHHHAHHH! That is me screaming from the top of my imaginary building excited that I have been nominated by Worrywart for The Versatile Blogger Award. I want to thank her so much for reading and for the nomination because it has truly made blogging worth it.

After two years of blogging I have never enjoyed it as much as I am now! I love reading everyone’s blogs as well as you reading and commenting on mine. It keeps me humble to know that everyone shares some of the same thoughts as I do. Your blogs have inspired me to keep going, especially those who write each and every day. You challenge me to do the same. Thank you again!

Here are the rules for The Versatile Blogger Award:

1. In a post on your, blog, nominate 15 fellow bloggers for The Versatile Blogger Award.

2. In the same post, add the Versatile Blogger Award.

3. In the same post, thank the blogger who nominated you in a post with a link back to their blog.

4. In the same post, share 7 completely random pieces of information about yourself.

5. In the same post, include this set of rules.

6. Inform each nominated blogger of their nomination by posting a comment on each of their blogs.

7 completely random things about me….

1. I am blessed to serve an amazing God.

2. I have a very contagious laugh.

3. I am always hungry that explains me eating 5 times a day not including snacks. Don’t judge me.

4. I feel I have met my match and we both complement one another in the best ways.

5. I have this infatuation with Mexican food right now.

6. I love pickles and olives.

7. I have excellent penmanship.

*Ahem drum roll please*

Here are my nominations for The Versatile Blogger Award

My Journey With God

Mutterings From A Dark Corner

Love Out Loud

Unwritten Truth

Sherline’s Whatchu Thinkin Blog





Earth in Black and White




Repairing The Breach


Congrats to all of the new award winners! I pray that you have not already won this award. My brain hurts from searching pages and trying to find who hasn’t. Be blessed!

Fortunately Unfortunate

10 Dec

Fortunately I was able to wake up this morning,

Unfortunately there was someone around the world who didn’t.


Fortunately I ate multiple times today,

Unfortunately there are millions who will not even have one meal.


Fortunately I am able to serve my God in peace,

Unfortunately there are many who must serve theirs in secret.


Fortunately I have grown to trust my Father in heaven,

Unfortunately there are many who don’t.

Yet, God is faithful.


Fortunately I have a bed to sleep on with a roof over my head,

Unfortunately there are millions who sleep on the ground outside.


Fortunately I am prosperous in the Lord although I am unemployed,

Unfortunately there are those who lack prosperity because they think of monetary

And material wealth but, it’s a lifestyle that begins in your heart.


Unfortunately there is someone reading this who hasn’t dedicated their life to Christ,

Fortunately today is the perfect day to.

The Call of Forgiveness

7 Dec

I was calling to inquire about the current rates at the mortgage office and the voice on the other end sent chills up my spine. It’s a voice I never thought I’d hear ever again. Yet, the distant offensive memories came back as if they just happened yesterday. Various words of abuse and cruelty resurrected, words like “I hate you”, “go cheat on me with that guy you work with”, or “I don’t even know why I am with you, you get on my nerves”, yet hours later I am graced with words like, “You’re the best thing that happened to me”, “I missed you all day”, or “Let’s go to Vegas and get married this weekend”. This all came to the forefront and on the other end I heard, “Hello? Hello?”   Yet again the voice makes me cringe! All I can think about is him dragging me across the room on the night he got upset because I questioned him about his ex texting him all of a sudden. Him cursing me out repulsively because I kept questioning him about it for the last week; this was the supposed reason for him putting his hands on me.

 Just the night before, I was awoken and asked, “What type of diamond I would like as an engagement ring.” “Hello? Hello?” again the vindictive voice rang in my ear and I respond, “Yes, I forgive you for ruining my inner peace and happiness for a very short period of time, I forgive you for putting your hands on me even though you deny doing it, you said “It wasn’t like I hit you” so that makes it better or less of an offense? I forgive you for breaking my heart into pieces yet giving me peace because I am FREE, I forgive you for the years of verbal abuse, the emotional abuse, and your kind words that you THOUGHT would make everything better, I forgive you for not stopping me from getting away from that poisonous relationship. Did you hear me? I forgive you. And I know I have peace and my heart no longer will remember you or those things because of MY Lord and Savior.” CALL ENDED.

Now I know I didn’t need to say any of these things because once I ask God for forgiveness I am forgiven. However, the time and place presented itself so he needed to know.  

Here is an excerpt from a book that I’m writing called The Past is in the Past Enjoy!

Location On? Why?

2 Dec

It has come to my attention that there are some crazies in the world today who are waiting for someone to slip up. That someone can be you and you may not even know it. It never really crossed my mind that someone knowing your location can be cool like it is now. You have social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter that allow it appear cool to know where you are at all times.

I remember when I first signed up for Twitter, I thought it would be a great way to pump my blog so I signed up. Then I realized that lovely question that almost made me cancel the registration. It said would you like your location to be on? Ummmm….no! Why would I want someone to know my exact location at all times? Let alone a perfect stranger! Twitter is one of those social networking sites where anyone can follow you. I don’t like that. That means a perfect stranger can know your geographic location at all times. Yeah no I will pass on this. Luckily I was able to disable this feature so I proceeded with the registration. Currently, my location on Twitter says “La La Land”.

Facebook has changed their layout so many times and I have deleted my account many times too, yet again I was upset when I realized that it may be helpful to my blog, so I created a new account this time for the blog. Then I realized that I wouldn’t have the page published if I didn’t have a personal account! sigh again. Anyways, there is this application for mobile phones now called FourSquare (I believe) and you’re basically checking into the locations that you are currently in. Now Facebook has it where you can actually have this automatically posted onto your timeline as a status update and now you can also have your location added to your status. Why would you want to do this? Now that I think of it so does Twitter. You can attach FourSquare to your Twitter account too. Sigh.

The point I am trying to make here is that if you are numbers driven, and you want to have five thousand friends on Facebook (that is the max), and who knows how many followers you can have on Twitter, millions, there is at least one person on there who has stalker qualities and would like to know your every move. Why do you want someone to know that you are on vacation? Why do you want someone to know that you’re at work all day long? So you can get your house robbed? Why would you want someone to know that your child is at school now because you just dropped them off? Would you want to be kidnapped, hurt, killed? Like c’mon people smarten up.

If I didn’t love the craft so much I wouldn’t have these things. They cause nothing but drama! As I mentioned before I have a new love for Criminal Minds and they actually used social networking stalkers as an episode. Let’s get with it my loves! Spread the word. Switch your LOCATION OFF!

Have a blessed weekend!

Are You Obsessed?

29 Nov

I was reading a fellow bloggers blog and it made me think of obsession. Sometimes being obsessed or infatuated with your mate can blind you. Often times at least one of the persons involved tend to get hurt. I just wanted to take the time out to list a few signs of what obsession is and what to look out for. There is typically three phases to a relationship: lust, infatuation, and love. Obsession is not listed on here. Therefore you should run!

According to Wiki obsessive love is “a state in which one person feels an overwhelming obsessive desire to possess another person toward whom they feel a strong sexual attraction, with an inability to accept failure or rejection.”

  • Jealousy to the point where you mate is calling you, emailing you, texting you all hours of the day checking up on you.
  • Stalking: Popping up at the job, popping up at random places when you know you didn’t inform him/her of your whereabouts.
  • Excessive gift giving: I mean after the first date type of gift giving, no matter if it is in the form of dinner, money, jewelry, flowers, you name it. If all of this is given in a short period of time this can no longer be considered an act of kindness it’s obsession.
  • Constant accusing of cheating.
  • Controlling your mate not being able to see friends or family because they want you to themselves.
  • The use of drugs, alcohol, food, or sex to “cure” emotional pain.
  • Strong feelings of mistrust which causes them to become depressed.
  • Violent outbursts when you annoy them easily.
  • Becoming in denial that the relationship has ended.
  • Suicide. If one is threatening suicide then that is where you should check out immediately.

Please take heed and do not allow yourself to go deeper into a relationship if you already notice some of the signs. You will find yourself doing the same exact things only to justify what is going on in your relationship. It is unhealthy and can end badly for both parties. Around this time of year we hear about all the love that is in the air but there are some who aren’t feeling the love.

Thanks for reading and thank you for all the new subbies and followers!


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